I can’t believe I’m 31 right now. I still feel like I’m barely 25 and I haven’t figured out anything important yet. But I really turned 31 today, so happy birthday to me! I really, really love celebrating my birthday. I’m like a five-year old, I want it all: The balloons, the confetti, the surprises, the gifts and the big birthday cake. Can’t wait to do all of that next year. I love sharing feeling alive, my wealth and my happiness with others on my birthday. As I can’t invite you to share my birthday cake with me, I will share five life lessons I’ve learned, which will hopefully benefit you too. Check out the video or read this article.
Do what you love
The first lesson is about not giving a fuck about societies ‘goals’ for you. Can I say that? Yes, I can. I’m 31 years young and I can do whatever I want. So can you and I want you to do so. The most important lesson I’ve learned is to truly not give a shit about other people’s opinions. As far as I know, we only have one life to live. Do you really want to sacrifice your life in order to live up to other people’s standards, whishes, opinions and believes? I don’t think so! I think you want to live a life you’re proud of, a life that truly means something to you.
Unfortunately, most of us have been brought up with the idea of conforming to society. You grow up, go to school, get a job, get married, have kids, hopefully live a little and die. There is nothing wrong with this way of living if this is truly what you want. If it’s not, now is the time to make a change. I know it’s hard, I know it’s scary but it will be the best thing you’ve ever done. Don’t end up unhappy and unsatisfied like many other people do, because they were too scared to follow their hearts. Fuck the ‘society police’ and their opinions. You don’t have to fit it and you don’t have to stand out. You just have to do what makes you happy.
You always have a choice
I’ve learned you always have a choice. You might have two shitty options, but a choice you have. As a young girl I quickly learned that by making a choice and following it up, I could get to my goals quicker. Making a choice will at least put you one step ahead, versus sitting on the couch sulking about your life and how it sucks. Which is also a choice, but it’s the choice people who never get ahead in live make. I’m guessing you’re not one of those because you’re reading this article. You’re going to be alright!
This is one of my five favorite live lessons, as it reminds me that you always have more power than you think. I’m not saying I always make the right choices and it sometimes takes me a long time to make one. But I always have a choice and I use it to my advantage. You see, any progress is better than standing still. I don’t care how shitty your situation is, get up and do some research. I guarantee you will find a few options that will get you ahead, even if it’s just a little bit. Do the work and better choices and options will come your way.
An opinion is not a fact
Another heavy hitter that you should always keep in mind. You see, an opinion isn’t a fact. Which means that if you were to say you think I’m the most stupid person in the world, I don’t care. It doesn’t bother me, it doesn’t hurt me and it doesn’t faze me. Because my neighbor might think I’m pretty smart, while my best friend thinks I’m mediocre. And none of those opinions are true, because they’re not based on facts. So why would you put (too much) value into someone’s opinion, to the point it really hurts you? It makes no sense and therefor you shouldn’t see other people’s opinions as the truth about you.
When you realize that everyone has opinions about you, but they do not actually contain any accuracy, it’s very easy to not let them get to you. I’m not saying you should never listen to other people’s opinions. I’m suggesting you curate them based on actual value. If someone says: ‘I think you suck!’, it doesn’t have much value to you. So don’t even think about opinions like that. Focus on the facts instead. Do you really suck all the time or are you just having a bad day, meaning you’re okay in general? Then that’s what you are focusing on, stick with the facts!
Embrace your unique personality
Behaving like everybody else isn’t you. You have a unique personality which you should explore and exploit, in a positive way. I’ve learned that behaving like everyone else just means you dissolve into the masses. You don’t stand out anymore, you get dulled and bored by constantly adjusting to societies norms. Why would you downplay your own unique personality, when that could give you that extra oomph your looking for in life? I personally used to adjust my personality because I thought it work in my favor. Until I realized it really doesn’t.
I noticed it because of Youtube, where I used to post the same type of beauty videos like every other girl on there. I thought this was the best option if I wanted to grow my Youtube channel and get more views. I was just going after the thing ‘that worked,’ not realizing it didn’t work at all! Not posting what I really wanted to post just made me lose that unique edge I have. That undeniable crazy personality that sets me apart from the crowd, is all I really need. I realized that two years ago and I changed up my Youtube channel. I lost a lot of subscribers who wanted me to keep doing the same. Now I’m gaining subscribers who actually love my unique personality and the videos I post. Like you reading about these five life lessons to improve your life.
This is something I learned from my parents and I think it’s very important. By the way, a family member does not always have to be blood relative. I had a few very good friends I considered family. I would do almost anything for them, just like I would for the family I was born into. The reason for putting family first is very simple. In most cases family is all you’ve got, and they are the ones that are going to be there for you. So make sure you take care of them as good as you can. Don’t take the people who will always have your back for granted.
If you don’t have any blood relatives, you can create your own family. Really good friends can become your family by treating them that way. You can create your own family dynamics and a save environment for them to be in. To me family is that safety net everybody needs, it’s the people that always make you feel welcome. Family members are the ones who are there when everybody else lets you down. My best advice is to make sure they know you appreciate that and that you will provide the same benefits for them. Put your family first for a better live.
These are my five life lessons, which will hopefully help you out too. If this article helped you in any way, shape or form, let me know in a comment below.
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